​Let's start in the middle of it all. 

 

At 26, I was diagnosed with chronic anxiety and depression, and prescribed Zoloft. I remember standing in my therapist’s office, being told I had a chemical imbalance and that I’d probably be on medication for the rest of my life. I left feeling hopeless, and the medication made everything worse. The suicidal ideation deepened, I felt lost inside myself, and then my therapist ghosted me.

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What started after that was the journey of "figuring me out"

 

Because I wanted to actually talk to people about my experience, rather than continue consuming self-help I couldn't actually apply, I started a free Meetup group. No courses. No coaches. Just a room full of anxious humans talking about anxiety, connection, and what it’s like to feel trapped in your own mind. That group changed my life and set the stage for the last 7 years. ​

 

From there, I started helping people one-on-one. I was still asking the deep questions, but I had more experience now. I studied NLP to understand how the mind actually works. I built on my years of mindfulness, meditation, and journaling. And slowly, I started putting the pieces together. Communication wasn’t just about what we say - otherwise we could read the books and regurgitate them perfectly, every time it mattered.

 

What I discovered was that it was about the inner world we never say out loud.

 

The nervous system patterns, the beliefs, and the emotional turmoil. And most of all: how we talk to ourselves.

 

Over time, I began combining what actually worked:
1. Introspection (self-inquiry)
2. Emotional regulation (staying calm and clear)
3. Practical communication skills (applying 1 & 2 to my listening, speaking, and mindfulness skills)

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I created The Spec Method because I believe communication is more than just words and fancy skills. It changed my life to pay attention to my mind, emotions, and the potential of communication. That's why I teach it. ​